Do you know somebody who consistently stresses you out?
If not, consider yourself blessed.
But if you do, you perhaps know how toxic such a person is. They may raise your heart rate. They likely give you a headache. And they probably lead you to be quite irritable.
Unfortunately, my life includes one of these less than charming individuals. Every encounter I have with this individual goes, for the most part, down the same miserable road. If they aren’t complaining about ten different things, they’re having a total anxiety-laced meltdown.
It is, for me, a very draining experience. And while their woes are not my own, simply hearing about their troubles impairs my health. Consider it secondhand stress.
Just like a smoker pollutes your air and harms your well-being, so too does the complainer, the worrier.
The ideal resolution is to avoid them. And if you can’t escape 100% then at least limit your time with them.
You could also tell them to stick a cork in it – in a nice way, of course.
Be polite and suggest that, while you would love to be helpful, you’re just not able to offer any sort of resolution.Hopefully, they'll get the point and will knock it off. They might (be ready for this!) be offended as it’s not what they’ll want to hear. Sometimes though, you have to take a hit for the greater good and risk this. Then, too, you should also be prepared to have your request fall on deaf ears. This tactic might get them to stop venting, or it might not. Either way, you made the effort to stop the madness.
In any case, remember that their woes are not your own. Take a deep breath and just deal as best you can.
Do you have anybody causing you second-hand stress? How do you deal with these types of people?
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