Do you hate your thighs?
Now, if you awoke one night to find your limbs wrapped about your throat and they were viciously trying to choke you to death, then I most certainly would be able to understand your animosity towards them. Violence is not something to be liked. Your thighs would be very bad indeed!
Somehow, though, I suspect this scenario is highly improbable.
So why then would you hate on your innocent body parts – be it your thighs, your tummy, your arms?
Perhaps you adore every last inch of yourself. Kudos, then!
Sadly, it’s more often the case that there is a bit of hating going on. Far too many dislike how they look. And I know we all have our days, but overall, too much hating is so wrong.
And if your less than favorable opinion of your body is one of your prime motivators for eating right and exercising, then I am unhappy to report that you, my friend, are in a bad spot. A really bad one. What you need is a little shifting.
Here’s a quiz for you. Say you were at the gym and you were running on the treadmill. Would you want:
A. A person telling you that you look so insanely fat and you’d better keep running because your thunder thighs are horribly shameful and frankly, just painful to even look at.
B. A person telling you that you are really doing an awe-inspiring job, that you rock, that you are really strong.
I am going to bet you’d want to lose Miss A real fast. In fact, your best option would be to hop off that treadmill and run from her – very, very quickly.
Berating yourself isn’t cool. Don’t be Miss A.
Wanting to improve your appearance is certainly not a terrible thing. We all want to be better. But having self-hatred be what’s driving you is just mentally not so good. Go ahead and strive to improve yourself, but don’t give yourself a verbal/mental beat down at the same time.
Focus instead on your health and well-being. Approach things from a positive place – not a negative one.Focus on how you are getting healthier - not on how awful your body looks and how badly it needs to be changed.
And consider this:
Michelle Segar, a PhD at the University of Michigan’s Institute on Women and Gender, found out something rather interesting on this subject. She found that women who worked out and had a goal of improving their overall well-being were far more likely to keep on sweating – they were 34% more likely to stick to their routines than women who were exercising just to be thinner.
Remember to love yourself a bit more and hate a little less.
Flickr photos: halcyon; Dia; xcode